Chris

In her book I Don’t: A Contrarian History Of Marriage, Susan Squire asks: “Why does society consider it more moral for you to break up a marriage, go through a divorce, disrupt your children’s lives maybe forever, just to be able to fuck someone with whom the fucking is going to get just as boring as it was with the first person before long?” (Emphasis added.)

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Open discussion of disability and the like is generally wonderful. Mandatory cultural educator status for every disabled person not so much.

–Tapetum, 2008-08-05, here.

This absolutely goes for any topic.

Originally posted at Xtinian Thoughts.  Comment here or there.

First, I must confess that over the past few years I have been gravely disappointed with the white moderate. I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro's great stumbling block in his stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen's Counciler or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate, who is more devoted to "order" than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says: "I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I cannot agree with your methods of direct action"; who paternalistically believes he can set the timetable for another man's freedom; who lives by a mythical concept of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait for a "more convenient season." Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. Lukewarm acceptance is much more bewildering than outright rejection.

– Letter from a Birmingham Jail, by Martin Luther King, Jr.

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I've recently come to the realization that one of the tools an abuser used against me (and everyone in his vicinity) was saying "un-PC" and offensive shit all the damn time, claiming it was "just a joke" or that he "just liked to get people riled up over (so-called) nothing." This is ultimately a control game. It's called: I'm Going To Keep You On The Defensive/Reactive At All Times, While I Get To Play Offensive/Active And Have A Real Laugh At Your Expense.

- tupelo_lights, here

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Now I will wait for the hundreds of concerned comments that explain to me patiently, as if I am a slow learner, that if I have any sort of skin problems after shaving off perfectly normal hair from a perfectly healthy body part that doesn't need to have the hair removed from it, I am obviously doing it wrong and if I just use X product that cost X amount of dollars and was invented just for this purpose, and if I do X time consuming beauty ritual before I do the totally unnecessary shaving thing, then I won't have those annoying problems! Most of the time. Although it seems to me the most efficient and cost effective way to avoid having those problems is to, you know – not do it.

- Amananta, commenting in Use it or lose it: humanity vs porn over at I Blame The Patriarchy.

I do still shave my legs.  I have tried just not shaving them, but I die in a pool of anxiety once there's the chance I'll be engaging in clothing-optional activities with anyone.  Where "anyone" includes people who have explicitly stated that they don't care, explicitly stated that they prefer I don't (stubble suck, you know), or don't shave themselves.

I kind of wish I could get over that more.  While I do like the feeling of smooth legs, (a) that only lasts for the better part of a day, and then the suck settles in, and (b) I actually also like the feeling of not having shaved for ages.  It's kind of pleasant.  And, yeah, saves time, water, and bandaid money.

Originally posted at Xtinian Thoughts.  Comment here or there.

Whenever someone says "stop being so PC," I change it in my head to "stop being so respectful," and then they sound like a douchebag. Mind you, most of my friends *are* respectful, so it doesn't come up much.
Eve

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This here is the best rant I've read in ages.  At Alas, A Blog, Bonnie takes down Robert's stupid comparing-GLBTQ-to-pedophilia nonsense, and lo, it is beautiful.

Originally posted at Xtinian Thoughts.  Comment here or there.