Chris

Back to what I was on about an age ago.  That being, Twisty is awesome.  Today's evidence is where she posts about consent.  The entire post is what win is, but I will excerpt a portion just for you:

There are rules about what sort of woman can even attempt to make the "I said no" argument in court. Women who typically are not eligible to opt out of consent include: women who drink in bars, women who walk alone, women who walk at night, women who use drugs, women belonging to certain castes, women who dress a certain way, women who don't dress a certain way, women who are married to men, women who have had multiple sex partners, women who may have said yes last month, women who may have said yes at the beginning but who, three minutes in, found it disagreeable and changed to "no," women who didn't fight back hard enough, women who didn't tell anyone or report it right away, women whose physical similarity to pornulated women aroused the defendant, women whose behavior at the party aroused the defendant, teens with a "reputation," and prostituted women.

She goes on to discuss (a) a news item about a 13-year-old who was raped by her instructor, and how vile and appalling it is that the article author put quote marks around "rape", (b) the problem with consent as it stands, and (c) her bona-fide solution for it.

This is precisely why I love reading I Blame The Patriarchy.  The language is precise and the concepts are amazing.  I am ever in hearts with folk what can put words to ideas in such a fashion, since I so often have problems with it.

Originally posted at Xtinian Thoughts.  Comment here or there.

Now I will wait for the hundreds of concerned comments that explain to me patiently, as if I am a slow learner, that if I have any sort of skin problems after shaving off perfectly normal hair from a perfectly healthy body part that doesn't need to have the hair removed from it, I am obviously doing it wrong and if I just use X product that cost X amount of dollars and was invented just for this purpose, and if I do X time consuming beauty ritual before I do the totally unnecessary shaving thing, then I won't have those annoying problems! Most of the time. Although it seems to me the most efficient and cost effective way to avoid having those problems is to, you know – not do it.

- Amananta, commenting in Use it or lose it: humanity vs porn over at I Blame The Patriarchy.

I do still shave my legs.  I have tried just not shaving them, but I die in a pool of anxiety once there's the chance I'll be engaging in clothing-optional activities with anyone.  Where "anyone" includes people who have explicitly stated that they don't care, explicitly stated that they prefer I don't (stubble suck, you know), or don't shave themselves.

I kind of wish I could get over that more.  While I do like the feeling of smooth legs, (a) that only lasts for the better part of a day, and then the suck settles in, and (b) I actually also like the feeling of not having shaved for ages.  It's kind of pleasant.  And, yeah, saves time, water, and bandaid money.

Originally posted at Xtinian Thoughts.  Comment here or there.

Twisty posts about the recent honour killing in Iraq.  I realise that doesn't narrow it down any.

In short, 6 men stone a girl to death for an hour.  I freely admit that I am not strong enough to watch the video Twisty has embedded in her post, but I don't think it's necessary to watch it in order to feel outraged and upset.  edith says a true thing: "And I'm just never going to understand why people think women's rights is an outdated agenda."

In conclusion, I remain insufficiently convinced of the effectiveness of online petitions, but it couldn't hurt.

Originally posted at Xtinian Thoughts.  Comment here or there.

* Where's My Extra Piece of the Pie? Wherein which Anna at Feminists Don't Bake Bread defines privilege in a clear, easy-to-understand method.  Specifically, she discusses the difference between privilege and rewards, since people tend to confuse the two.  She does not, however, have pie.

* Twisty at I Blame The Patriarchy has a new FAQ about MRAs.  (I still want to know why bitter men can generalise about all Feminists, but god help me if I talk about statistical things regarding men.  I doubt I'll ever get a good answer to that.)

* Hugo discusses the pressure between advertising's take on feminism and the patriarchy.

* Lauredhel posts about attacks, emotions, and logic.  I say now that, naturally, logic isn't the sole province of men, just as emotion isn't for women.  By which I mean to say, duh.

Originally posted at Xtinian Thoughts.  Comment here or there.