nonethefewer | When I'm cheerful, I'm still just as ranty. (Reply)

I don't get it. I Don't Get It.

I try my very best to understand where people come from. Sometimes this is misinterpreted as seeing the other side as having the right of things, which is both incorrect and a whole different rant. I do anyways. But I don't get this.

A decision by a Maryland appellate court (that once given and within a sexual context, women can't withdraw consent (link = .pdf)) is fucking revolting. I could keep piling on adjectives, but my first reaction is both accurate and succint. If I am in the middle of having sex and I say "Wait, stop", I expect the other person to fucking stop, and that's that.

There are some people men out there (I've not yet seen even one woman arguing this) who have a problem with this. What if she sends mixed signals? What if she says "no" but actually and non-ironically means "yes"? This is just women using their sexual power, like we are!

Answers: You fucking communicate, you fucking communicate, and you fucking die in a fire. I will cheerfully assist with the last one.

The main part I don't understand is, why are these men, and men like them, so incredibly insulting to their own gender? "We can't stop in time, and it's unfair to expect us to!" As my boyfriend says, "Could you stop if your mom walked in while you were having sex? All right, then!"

I try my best not to be all the paranoid about assigning things to the patriarchy, largely due to me being new to the feminism thing, but fuck if I can't see anything here other than, "We want the power to do what we want, and it threatens us when women want to be treated as human."