Yup, able-ism is a word within the disability community and screw the dictionaries which don't carry it. Yet.

I am not part of the (current) RaceFail fuss as I've done my time, but my flister Madam Silvertip is spending some space on her LJ reflecting on it from a personal ethical perspective in five posts dated March 8.

In case you're looking for more. I don't deal with this issue in this type of discussion, which I generally find less profitable than your own approach in #1 above.