nonethefewer | One or the other.

I adore the hell out of Alara Rogers' comments. She usually comments at Pandagon; today's gem of awesome is:

The fact that we only hear about drunken ex-boyfriends when they beat up and rape their ex-girlfriends is why we might think that a drunken ex would be dangerous to a woman, but telling women that they shouldn't trust men that they loved once… that basically boils down to saying "Men are evil." And you know, when people make the argument that men are evil I want them to follow through. I want them to admit that men should have a curfew and men should be restricted in their movements and men should be treated like dangerous animals. Because if women cannot trust men they *love*, as a matter of *routine*–if we can say, looking at a situation, "well of course she shouldn't have trusted him! He was a man, what did she expect? Even if they used to be lovers, hell, *especially* if they used to be lovers she shouldn't have let him into her home", then we also need to be saying "Men are dangerous animals and should be treated as such." You know, the way we treat pet tigers. But if men are human, if men deserve human rights, if men *aren't* automatically rapists, if most men can be assumed to be good people… then women should never, ever, ever be punished or castigated for trusting the wrong man.

Originally posted at Xtinian Thoughts. Comment here or there.